I make this request every year, so prepare yourself because I’m about to sound super pretentious, which is way more more than my usual pretentious …
It’s around this time of year that I notice, online, the parents of elementary students discussing teachers they hope their child will get. Now, I won’t pretend to lie to you — my wife and I have definite opinions about who we hope our children will get, too.
Here’s the thing: I’m a teacher and I’m married to a teacher. We can tell you it hurts when there’s a chance we can have someone’s child and they say they hope their child gets someone else. Of course, the parent may not mean anything malicious by it, but it’s still hard not to take it personally.
But it can actually get worse. When a parent’s child gets a particular teacher and publicly states they wish they’d gotten a different teacher — yikes. That can open a wound that stays fresh all year long. I know teachers are supposed to be above such reproach, but we’re only human.
Anytime something is said on Facebook, Twitter, etc., there is always the potential for it to get back to the teacher in question.
Do I blame you if you’re upset about getting a teacher you didn’t want your child to have? Absolutely not! We all have opinions about such things. I’m just asking that you keep it off social media. The Internet is already such a breeding ground for misinterpretations and misunderstandings, no need to add to the mix, right?
So, as a teacher, I’m asking you, the parent, to help set the tone for a great new school year. Even if you don’t like the teacher your child gets, let’s avoid publicly stating you wish you’d gotten someone else. It will save everyone hurt feelings and lingering resentment.
Okay, I’m switching off “super pretentious” and now going back to “regular pretentious.” Thanks for reading.